A Matter of Sexes

Can I just say, I'm really fucking sick of the bullshit all over the internet. And that bullshit is the gender wars.

Short and sharp: men and women both suck. Men and women are both great. Men and women are kind of meh.

Because, and I stress this, PEOPLE are PEOPLE. There are idiots. There are douchebags. There are cool people. There are kickass people. And I automatically have an issue with people who use the words "male", "female", "man" and "women" in irrelevant contexts to describe the behaviour of one PERSON. It bothers me that people feel such a great need to root out a reason for something that they pull the gender card.

For example, the other day I was talking to someone, and we were talking about a situation involving a guy we know who basically uprooted his girlfriend from her job and social life in their city to move back to Melbourne. The person I was talking to was really pissed off about it. Strangely so. And then, in one of the sentences from her angry rant, it all came out in a few words: "It really pisses me off when men just treat women like shit!"

I'm not trying to incriminate this person in any way. She's a feminist, and whatever. You know my stance on feminism. But I just had to pull her up on that sentence. It's something that happens way too often. Someone dogs someone else, next thing you know it's misogyny or misandry. That's not to say there AREN'T cases where it can be pinned down. If a guy repeatedly treats women exclusively like shit, then fair enough, there's clearly a correlation. But this guy is a really nice guy. As far as I know, he's been no worse to women than men. So from where the fuck did the provocation come to make him out to be sexist? That sentence, "when men treat women like shit" is almost to put across that women don't treat men like shit.

The fact is, some men treat women like shit and some women treat men like shit. You're deluded if you think it's one way or the other. And when that equality's been established, then surely we can move on to saying "people treat people like shit?" Is there anyone on Earth who would disagree with that statement? No? Then how about we just say that? Why put unnecessary emphasis on some sort of segregation that happens to work both ways?

Fight for your cause. Stand up to misogyny. But fight both sides. This isn't a motherfucking war. Which is what it's becoming.

Look at YouTube. That's the heart of it. The common trend is this:
-Guy makes a video, says something sexist. Or makes an entire sexist rant.
-Woman sees video, posts response which involves a backlash at men, and something like, "...you males think you can just walk all over us, but you're wrong...". Involves a counter-generalisation.

The problem is, that feminists have gotten so caught up in the bullshit that some men say, that they do the same thing back without even realising. It's fucking annoying. What is it about people that prompts them to separate themselves and then shell each other until it's too late to rebuild entirely?

If you see anyone that refers to men wronging women, say something. You know me well enough to know this isn't an indirect "misandry is rife" post. All I'm saying is I'm sick and tired of irrelevant shit being referred back to gender, and I'm sick of people making out like women are locked away in cells with men patrolling constantly. We're all people, and it doesn't do us any favours to start grouping and segregating for the sake of blame.